How To Deal With Colleagues Who Love To Chew Their Tongue

What do you do when you find someone who says bad things behind you and secretly destroys your image?

1. review yourself first.

You should think about whether or not you did something or what you said, and let the other person see you disagreeable.

2. ask why.

      你可以问说：“我不知道发生了什么事，是否可以告诉我是什么问题。”如果对方什么话也不愿意说，干脆直接了当的跟对方说：“我知道你对我似乎有些不满，我认为我们有必要把话说清楚。”

3. a euphemistic warning.

       如果对方不肯承认他曾经在别人说过不利于你的话，你也不必戳破对方，只要跟对方说：“我想可能是我误会了。不过，如果以后如果你有任何的问题，希望你能直接告诉我。”你的目的只是让对方知道：你绝对不会坐视不管。

4. report to the boss.

When something like this happens second times, you can clearly tell the other person: "if the two of us can't solve the problem, we need to let the boss know about it."

Of course, not all situations must be reported to the boss.